Hi! My name is Sarah Holt and I am engaged to Hudson! My fiancé and I met several years ago when we were both in junior high.
My family was looking for a new church and we landed at the church his parents pastored. He likes to say that he has loved me since the moment we met, like love at first sight, but I am still skeptical because I had acne, braces, chubby cheeks, and a whole lot of 2012 fashion going on. I, on the other hand, took a while to warm up to the idea of us dating because he was a smelly 6th grader (a whole year younger than me) and I was not thinking of dating in any sense. We did not start to date until my senior year of high school, around december 2018. We dated almost two and a half years before getting engaged and we have been engaged for almost two months. God has always been the most important part of our relationship because we both know and understand how our personal relationship with Jesus can affect every aspect of our lives, especially in our relationship. We have not been a perfect couple by any means, we have had trouble with pretty much anything you can think of. We have figured this one thing out, we have to be intentional with everything. Our devotional time, our date nights, communication, boundaries, hard conversations, our time we spend with God, and anything and everything else that has to do with relationships. We have to discuss and schedule date nights, we have to intentionally make time during our busy days to pray, read, and intentionally worship God daily. This is the hardest part about dating for me, especially when you are trying to plan a wedding. The good news is, there’s an easy part about dating and being engaged too! When we make sure to do all the hard things intentionally, the rest falls into place. I feel loved, it’s easy to love my fiancé, I want to do everything I can to be the best for him and to make him feel as loved as possible. I am attracted to the effort he puts into our relationship and vice versa. This is not always present but we know how to fix this issue when is occurs. We often have to step back and examine our actions and how our relationship has been going in order to fix the problem and grow from it. These conversations can be difficult to have because I am sometimes scared I will make my fiancé upset by telling him that something is wrong. I know I shouldn’t be fearful of this because usually, we can both sense when something is not right. We have to stay open when communicating, keep our voices at a normal level, never shut down, and always talk the issue all the way through to a solution. Sometimes the solution is simple and obvious but other times, it takes time and effort to fix. If hard conversations seems awkward to you, be honest about that feeling with your significant other, usually the feelings are mutual. As a christian couple, we value our relationship with God above all else. This results in a couple other standards we hold ourselves to as well. Specifically in a dating relationship, purity is pretty much the hardest thing to keep. This takes self control, prayer, and a good understanding of the Bible and boundaries. We ultimately want to date, be engaged, and get married how God intended and to do that, we have to know and stand firm in what the bible says. We have to agree on that, it is the foundation of both of our lives and our relationship. I want to leave you with this: pray. Pray for your relationship, for your boyfriend, fiancé, husband. Pray for yourself, pray for wisdom when tackling the hard times, pray for peace about the right guy, pray through it all and never stop even when things are great. Keep God at the center of everything. -SH
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